A complete guide to premarital counseling with Christ at the center!
Before anyone asks, no I'm not getting married. As silly as this will sound, I didn't realize this was a premarital counseling book. (Um yes, hello Emilie can you read?) I realize now it says that right on the cover but you guys know me and the fact I hardly ever read the back of books before I decide read them. And hey - I look at reading things like this as information for the future and extremely helpful to think through. I also find it helpful in my own personal walk with Christ and as a type of research for characters too. So, all around a bonus!
With that said, I really enjoyed this book. I feel like Rob did a great job of outlining each chapter and making it understandable for couples. He touched on super important topics like finances, conflict, church community, and many other things. The best part, in my opinion, is how Jesus-central it was! I felt like he did a great job keeping everything solidly rooted in scripture.
Rob also included really helpful questions at the end of each chapter that would help each person dig down deep. The examples he includes of he and his wife as well as couples he has counseled were also very helpful. He includes a section for mentors at the back too, so that's really great, especially if you're new to being a premarital counselor.
All around, if you are a counselor, looking to be a mentor for premarital counseling, or interested in premarital counseling for you and your significant other, this is definitely the book for you. You can rest assured the advice will be sound, the conversation stimulating, and the guidance always toward the Lord and His plan for marriage.
Purchase: Tying the Knot
Advised by both tellers of fairy tales and harbingers of doom, many engaged couples simply don’t know what to expect from marriage, so they focus their anxious energies on the wedding day. Rob Green, a pastor, counselor, and veteran of many premarital counseling sessions, shares that the joy, fun, companionship, and love couples hope for before marriage are not only possible, they are actually God’s plan for marriage. But none of these wonderful things happen automatically when you tie the knot. A strong and satisfying marriage must be intentionally built on Jesus.
Tying the Knot offers soon-to-be-married couples a practical vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and actionable. This nine-session study guides couples through issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy, showing how each can be successfully resolved with Christ at the center of the marriage.
Knowing the stresses and needs of a couple in their season of engagement, Green has helpfully designed the study to require a manageable (and healthy) 60 minutes of at-home work per session, with questions and exercises to build communication and intimacy at the end of each chapter. Tying the Knot also includes an appendix for mentors, making it easy for a married couple, lay leader, or counselor to lead an engaged couple through the book.
Field-tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice, Tying the Knot has already guided many couples into a stronger and more joyful union. Let this nine-week premarriage study reorient your life and marriage around Christ, so you both will experience all the blessings of marriage as God designed it.
• Presents a day-to-day vision of Christ-centered marriage that is realistic, hopeful, and practical • Demonstrates clearly—in just nine chapters or sessions—how issues like conflict, expectations, communication, finances, and intimacy can only be successfully and satisfyingly approached with Christ at the center of a marriage • Field tested and recommended by multiple counselors in a thriving counseling practice • Highly practical and accessible for couples, requires about 60 minutes of weekly at-home work • Includes chapter-by-chapter exercises and questions for couples to do separately and together to build communication and intimacy • Includes an appendix for mentors to guide couples through the book
_______________I received a free copy of this book for review purposes, but was under no obligation to read the book or post a review. I do so under my own motivation and the opinions I have expressed in this review are honest and entirely my own.